If I Hear “Just Do It” One More Time I May Scream

If I Hear “Just Do It” One More Time I May Scream

If I Hear “Just Do It” One More Time I May Scream
I am not satisfied with my life. I want to make a change in my life. When I talk to family and friends and mention I don’t like my life as it is they say, “Then change it. Just do it”. Like it is easy to make a major change in my life. I don’t have the resources to make the change I am seeking. I don’t have the energy, time, finances, support or knowledge to make the change. This overwhelms me and therefore, I do nothing and continue to feel discontent in my life. I wake up tired, I go through the day tired, I go to bed tired. I feel depressed, overwhelmed, angry, worthless, abused and disappointed sometimes because of my situation. These statements are examples of what I hear in my life guidance/coaching business. Knowing change is difficult in the best of circumstances and can seem almost impossible in the worst of circumstances, I have created a plan of action for opening up the possibility of change when a client comes to me with this dilemma.
I am a firm believer in writing things down. Some call this journaling, others list making, others just keeping my thoughts in one place. When you are desiring to create a change in your life I offer you this list of questions to begin the process of clarifying what you want looks like to you.
1. Clearly state the change you wish to make.
2. What has brought you to the decision to make this change in your life?
3. Describe past actions you have undertaken to make this change in your life.
4. Clearly state your successes and failures surrounding these past actions.
5. State your feelings about making this change.
6. What steps will lead you to successfully make this change.
7. What resources do you need to make this change?
8. Clearly state what you hope to gain from making this change in your life.
Once you have answered the questions with thought and reflection. Break down the resources you will need to make the change. Be realistic. If you are not able to complete heavy physical tasks brainstorm on ways to get it done without you doing the task. If you don’t have the financial resources to complete the task in one push, break down the tasks into financial chunks you can manage, or plan a savings account amount that is reasonable to accomplish this task. Do this breakdown with each of the necessary resources.
Remember the only way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time. And some changes may seem like the elephant in the room. Always there but not always addressed. If you do one thing each day to move toward the change you desire when you are ready with your resources the task will be easier. Keep a written list of what you have done each day to reach your goal. The reason for this is that in life we tend to forget what we have done to positively affect our life and you truly will be surprised when you read over the list what you have accomplished. If you are in a situation where the change you desire is impossible, and while some will tell you nothing is impossible in truth some changes are impossible, create small changes that are possible that will make the situation acceptable instead of perfect.

 


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