Fear of Change

Fear of Change

Fear of Change

All authentic change goes through four stages:
1) Anticipation
2) Regression
3) Breakthrough
4) Consolidation
Anticipation is the exciting stage of change where we anticipate the benefits and make our transformational plans. Regression is when things get worse before they get better. Breakthrough is when we finally see the light at the end of the proverbial tunnel. Consolidation is when we turn the benefits of change into business as usual.
In the regression stage anxiety may present itself and this anxiety can limit us from making a change. Anxiety and fear work together and allows us to stay stuck where we are instead of obtaining what we desire. These fears are broken down as:
Fear of the unknown: Not knowing what to expect and just ‘taking a leap of faith’ can add to feelings of anxiety. The first step to relieving the anxiety is to gather knowledge about the change you want to create. Creating questions about what you fear, and then seeking answers will allow you to understand that what you fear may not happen. Consider this a reality check on what you fear.
Fear of failure: Fear of failure is the top reason so many do not create change in their lives. You may not consider yourself to be a perfectionist but getting things perfect may stunt your ability to try new things. Failing can be painful but if you change your mindset to see failure as just a way to teach you how not to do something instead of a negative, you can get ahold of this fear and move forward in a more positive way.
Fear of success: This may seem to be an oxymoron because of course we want to succeed in anything we set out to do. But success comes with a different set of problems and we can get anxious thinking about this new set of problems. Our base fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is the light we possess within in that most frightens us. Have you asked yourself, “Who am I to believe I can be (fill in the blank). To reduce the anxiety around this fear we need to truly know ourselves and our value and remain true to them.
Fear of loss: Understand loss is part of change. You will lose known routines or things that defined you with change. You may also loose friends, family members, or parts of yourself with the change. To relieve the anxiety around this fear, create a written how-to plan on what you fear you will loose and what you will gain by losing that part of your life.
Fear of upsetting others: How others react to us depends on who we are. When we make a change, others are effected by the ripple effect. You can be stopped from making changes if you allow what you ‘think’ about how others will judge your change. Know you have the ability to change while keeping those closest to you on your side. Discuss with these people how they fill about the change and inform them as to your reasons for the change and then it is on them to accept the change. You cannot live your life to just please others.
Fear of leaving your comfort zone: We are creatures of habit. Sometimes these habits are negative but we become comfortable in the uncomfortableness and do not like facing changes to them. Know that changes allow for growth and new experiences. We have to leave our comfort zone to grow.
Fear of Self-doubt: Our internal script will say I am not good enough, who do I think I am that I believe I can accomplish this change. Again, this is a mindset shift to decrease the anxiety. Write down all the reasons you have the right to create the change and how you have the ability to create the change to focus on the positive aspects of you.
Fear of guilt: Putting other people’s needs before yourself will likely make you feel guilty when you make a change. Knowing when you change others will have to change in relation to you. People will use words such as should, must and have to when discussing the change with you. Do not buy into their beliefs. You are the one person who knows what you should do, have to do and must do.


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